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You don't need to feel like it

Published about 4 hours ago • 1 min read

Hey Reader,

If you're waiting to feel motivated before you finally do the thing, you could be waiting a very long time.

Almost everything I actually follow through on, I do because I decided to, not because I woke up feeling inspired.

The thing you keep putting off, the boundary, the hard conversation, the walk, the rest you keep meaning to take, usually has very little to do with motivation. It has everything to do with discomfort. Doing something new feels uncomfortable, even when it's exactly what you want.

So when that discomfort shows up, we tell ourselves a story. I just wasn't feeling motivated. And the thing you actually want gets moved to another day, and then another.

I would not have recorded more than 300 podcast episodes if I waited until I felt like it. So I don't leave it to how I feel that day. I pick the day, the time, the topic, and what I need in place, all ahead of time.

You make the decision ahead of time, so the discomfort doesn't get to make it for you. It's a small shift, and it changes so much.

I walk you all the way through it on the How To Love Yourself No Matter What podcast, including how to decide in a way that actually sticks.

Listen to the episode →

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You don't have to wait until you feel like it. You get to decide, and begin from right where you are.

xx Amanda

P.S. What's the one thing you keep putting off, the thing you really want but keep moving to another day? Hit reply and tell me what it is, and when you could decide to start.

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Amanda Hess Coaching

Life Coach for neurodivergent women who want to start controlling their thoughts and get rid of anxiety

I specialize in helping neurodivergent women control their thoughts & anxiety

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