You don't have a self-love problem


Hi Reader,

New episode is up. This one matters. I think you need to hear it.

You've been told the problem is that you don't love yourself enough. Love yourself more. Try harder. Think positive.

And it hasn't worked.

Here's what I want you to hear. It was never a self-love problem.

It's shame.

Shame is quieter. It hides underneath. It runs the show when you're not looking.

So in this episode we name it. We look at it. We start to loosen its grip.

That's where the work begins. yes?

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You are allowed to stop trying to fix yourself. There was never anything to fix. ❤️

With love,
Amanda

On a Mountain, Kamloops, BC V2C6S9
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