profile

Amanda Hess Coaching

Why Saying “No” Feels So Hard (& How to Make It Easier)

Published 19 days ago • 1 min read

Hi Reader,

Can I get real with you for a minute?

Have you ever found yourself saying yes to things your body and mind know you should say no to—just because you don’t want to disappoint others?

You’re not alone. That’s the “good girl narrative” at work—a story we’ve been told since childhood that to be good, we have to put everyone else first, even at our own expense.

This week on the podcast, I’m breaking down where this narrative comes from, why it keeps so many of us exhausted, resentful, and invisible, and most importantly, how to say no without guilt.

Here’s a quick snapshot of what we unpack:

  • The Good Girl Narrative—Where Does It Start?
  • Signs It’s Showing Up
  • The Cost of Being the Good Girl
  • The Path to Freedom: Self-Compassion

Remember: You can change your mind, set boundaries, and put yourself first. Your worthiness isn’t tied to how well you take care of everyone else.

If you want support on this journey, I invite you to join my Love Yourself No Matter What membership—a safe space to practice being yourself, not the “good girl” version, with coaching and community alongside you.

Ready to ditch exhaustion and guilt and start living fully for you? Listen to the full episode here: https://amandahess.ca/saying-no-without-guilt/

With so much love and belief in you,

Amanda

P.S. Did this episode resonate? Hit reply and let me know, leave a review to help other women find the show, or book a free discovery call with me at amandahess.ca/bookacall​

​
​

On a Mountain, Kamloops, BC V2C6S9
​Unsubscribe · Preferences​

Amanda Hess Coaching

Life Coach for neurodivergent women who want to start controlling their thoughts and get rid of anxiety

I specialize in helping neurodivergent women control their thoughts & anxiety

Read more from Amanda Hess Coaching

Hey Reader, Every now and then, I manage to send an email without a link 😩 Here is the link to Ep 262: Why Being Easygoing Doesn't Make You A Better PersonThanks for your grace 💕Amanda On a Mountain, Kamloops, BC V2C6S9Unsubscribe · Preferences

12 days ago • 1 min read

Hey Reader, Have you ever stood up for yourself and then immediately felt like a terrible person? You asked for what you needed—clearly, respectfully—and still felt like maybe you should’ve just let it go. Been a little easier to deal with. A little more "chill." Can you relate? YES - so painful This never happens to me This week on How to Love Yourself No Matter What, I’m calling out the harmful messaging that tells women being “easygoing” makes us better people. Because spoiler alert: It...

12 days ago • 1 min read

Hey there, Reader! How many hours did you spend doing something just for you last week? Not for work. Not for your kids. Not for anyone else. Just you, your body, your heart, your nervous system. Hit reply and let me know the number. I'm asking because I want to get a sense of how the women on this list are actually living… not just what we should be doing, but what’s really happening. Talk soon,Amanda 🌸 PS If your answer is close to zero, please know you're not alone. This is exactly the...

14 days ago • 1 min read