He hated it"


Hi Reader,

Last week I was coaching a client and she told me about taking her nephew to do that indoor skydiving thing. He kept standing up and sitting down. Standing up, sitting down. He could not make himself do it.

So she pushed him.

And then she felt guilty, because he hated it.

But here is the thing. Nothing went wrong. He tried it, he knows it isn't for him, and he never has to wonder about it again.

Here is what I told her, and it's what I need you to know too.

Sometimes we need a push.

We never feel ready. We don't. We only feel ready for the things where we already know how they are going to turn out.

But being afraid of what comes next is not a stop sign. It's a wake up call.

And you don't have to love the thing. You just have to stop guessing about it. That is what living life full out actually is. Not getting it right every time. Just never having to wonder.

If there is something you have been standing up and sitting down about, I have a few free calls open this week. One hour, just you and me, and we look at what would actually change for you.

Feel the fear and do it anyways.

Book your call:

xx Amanda

P.S. P.S. The worst thing that happens is you find out it isn't for you. And then you know.

On a Mountain, Kamloops, BC V2C6S9
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Amanda Hess Coaching

I specialize in helping neurodivergent women control their thoughts & anxiety

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